As women, we’re often better giving, than receiving. Taking care of others, rather than taking care of ourselves. Is that genetic hard-wiring or the result of cultural conditioning?
The question came to mind this weekend when my daughter-in-law Saraswati said to me, “I’d like to give you a facial.” Saras, as we call her, was eager to provide a relaxing and nurturing experience, using training she had received in a course called “Hobby Massage.” I felt a moment of resistance.
What about my wrinkles? Sun spots? The disappearing jaw line? Was I willing to surrender to this kind of close attention, even if it felt good?
Despite my hesitancy, I said “Yes,” and put myself in her hands. Soon she was massaging my face, applying face cream and rose water, and a scrub and mask.
“Before long you will be glowing!” she bubbled.
In the next hour, I became a plant soaking up nature’s rain and sun. Accepting what would help me grow and blossom. Acknowledging someone else could help me in a way I couldn’t help myself. Grateful for the opportunity to simply be in the moment.
If you’re in a planting and growing mood this spring–whether in your garden in the world or the garden within you, contemplate the balance in your life between giving and receiving.
Journal or draw a response to these questions:
What do you want to create?
What value does this have for you?
What resources do you have in your garden tool kit?
What will you need from others?
How will you ask for help? Accept what is offered?
Note how you feel about receiving, about being nurtured. If you sense resistance, take this in as information about balance in your life. Independence is good but so is connectedness. We need both. Diane