Last week we talked with a reporter who was writing a story about women facing life changes. Her questions were prompted by Maria Shriver’s situation and her YouTube video asking for advice on making life transitions.
The question got us thinking about our top three steps in making transitions that are real and lasting:
1. Spend time alone. Our society encourages us to look for answers outside ourselves. As a result, we’re easily distracted from real change, thinking that a move to a new home, job or relationship will fix our problems. Or that we can busy ourselves enough to forget about pain or grief. In truth, real and lasting transition begins inside. And the only way to access it is to remove ourselves for a time from the noise of the outer world.
2. Ask yourself important questions. Here are a few Tending Your Inner Garden favorites:
What do you want more of in your life?
What would you like to let go of?
If you had more time for yourself, what would you do?
Think of a time when you felt happy or successful. Why did you feel that way?
What roles do you play? Do they reflect who you really are or want to be?
What’s out of control in your life?
What are you most afraid of?
What do you need in order to grow?
What are you grateful for?
How could you nurture yourself more?
3. Treat yourself like your best friend. When you do that, you’ll always be in good company. Without it, you’ll be lonely no matter where you are, what you’re doing or who’s in the room. To achieve that kind of relationship with yourself, start by journaling about the questions above, then commit to doing one small thing differently each day to honor and acknowledge your own value and uniqueness.
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