Growing spiritually means learning how to let go

In our work with women through Tending Your Inner Garden these last ten years, we’ve learned a lot about what facilitates new growth and aliveness. One of the continuing truths is that holding life lightly, rather than grasping, allows you to evolve as you were created to do. Clinging to material goods, experiences or relationships gets in the way of learning about yourself and finding meaning and purpose in life.

Often something must die before something else can be born.

“Very truly I tell you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains just a single grain; but if it dies, it bears much fruit.” John 12:24

Dying often means letting go of something, uncertain about what comes next. You know a way of life no longer fits you but you’re not sure what does. You trust that the Spirit, God or the energy that infuses all of life is always with you. You let go. You live with uncertainty. You take small steps on a new path calling you. You learn as you go. You rely upon close relationships–those people who love you unconditionally–to be your companions.

We’ve witnessed many people let go and create vibrant new lives.

  • A professional woman facing potential blindness and nearing retirement worked through her fear and now lives closer to her family in Texas, enjoying horseback riding.
  • A marketing executive gave up a good job to go back to school to study her first love–counseling.
  • A woman who moved a lot as a child and felt rootless realized she could create her own home. She bought a house and adopted three dogs and two cats.

In each case something had to go–fear, money, limiting beliefs–for a richer, more joyful life to take root.

What do you need to let go of in your life for something new and vibrant to emerge? Journal with these questions:

  • Consider the various dimensions of your life–work, relationships, leisure pursuits, health. Where do you feel lightness and energy? Heaviness and darkness?
  • When have you let go of something in the past without certainty about the future? What happened as a result?
  • What fear do you have about letting go? Write it down. Now have a conversation with it. Ask it, “Why are you here?” “What do you have to teach me?” “What can I do to reassure you and move on?”
  • What did you learn as a child about trying new things? Were you encouraged to avoid risks, perhaps for good reason? How relevant are those childhood messages now?
  • What one step could you take now to release fear of change and move ahead on a dream or longing?

We love to hear stories about your life experience. Share something with us about a change you’ve made in your life!


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