Women need time to rest

In the ten years we’ve accompanied women as they tend their inner gardens, several important truths have emerged through the examples of their lives. In the coming weeks, we’d like to focus on those truths–what enables your soul to express your life purpose in the world. Here is the first of these truths.

We all need solitude and stillness in our lives.

As a culture, we do not rest well. If we’re not productive, if we’re not busy, we wonder what’s wrong. We begin to question our self-worth. We define ourselves by what we do.

Such a busy life depletes the soil of nutrients that generate new life. The winter season, metaphorically (it can happen in July), provides the gift of dormancy, a time to shift from achieving and producing to being and resting. By committing to a period of stillness each day, you learn how to quiet your busy mind. You learn you are not your thoughts. You connect with the “I am” that is God, Mother/Father, Divine Energy, Source, Creator–whatever name you give to the force that unites all of creation.

Why is this important? A regular period of quiet each day improves your health and begins to rewire your brain to produce a calmer, less reactive way of being. It gives you time to reflect on who you are and what you long for.

In our new book, Winter: Stories, Poems and Inspiration for the Season of Rest and Renewal, women speak eloquently about the gift of stillness. Angela Renkoski in “Courting Winter” says, “Winter is…a space that allows for new perspectives to breathe and stretch and put down roots in quiet and safety.” Ronda Armstrong in “A Tale of Comfort” says of winter, “A welcoming light shines in the shivering winter darkness, guiding us toward the healing promises of spring.” SuzAnne C. Cole in “Solitude and Loneliness,” reminds us, “There will be times in our lives when we will be alone, but we never have to be lonely if we do not choose to be.”

Women who have made significant and life-giving changes through Tending Your Inner Garden have embraced the spirit of winter, welcoming that open, quiet space for new life to take root. To help bring these same gifts into your life, consider the following questions for reflection and journaling:

  • How do I respond to stillness?
  • What impact does noise in my environment have on me?
  • When have I been alone in wilderness or nature? What was that like for me?
  • How do I experience aloneness? Loneliness?
  • How does the winter season of rest and solitude prepare me to reengage with others in an authentic way?

Do you have an experience of stillness and solitude to share with us? We’d love to hear from you!







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